Book Reviews

Lucy Coffin
Registered Nurse & Fertility Therapist

"Benita relays the all-important narrative of the reality of infertility. It is not simply a physical experience, more something that envelops your entire essence of being. Her raw honesty and gentle advice will undoubtedly bring comfort to many, many women"

Dr. Anna Carswell
GP Obstetrician & Medical Educator

“Benita takes the reader on a reproductive journey. It is an emotional and very open account experienced by many women. As health professionals, we only see a small part of the struggle. I feel privileged to have been on this journey and gained a new found respect and understanding of couples having difficulty conceiving. Well done Benita!”

Susan Hatchett
Artist, Graphic Designer & Mother

“So much more than a book for those trying to conceive!

Anything that wasn’t urgent went out the window for a couple of days because I couldn’t put the book down! The challenges I have faced are very different than Benita’s, but her story is so enlightening and interesting on so many levels – really a book that anyone, male or female, could pick up and get so much from.

So many of us know how it feels when our bodies feel out of control due to a health issue. Or when the plans we have for our life just don’t work out. The Art of Trying is a book about never giving up.

I am so grateful that through Benita’s story I have a greater awareness and sensitivity for those trying to conceive. It is a compelling reminder to always be kind and thoughtful with the topics of fertility, pregnancy and mental health. You really never know what someone may be going through – books like this are vital in starting and continuing dialogue and awareness of the struggles of so many.

A real stand out of this book is the beautiful kindness and love Benita shows her readers as she bravely and generously shares her personal journey in the hope that it will make their path a little easier.”

Dr. Mark Livingstone
Fertility & IVF Specialist

“Benita shares her story in a practical and heartfelt way to help others, and it has given me the opportunity to experience IVF from the other side of the desk."

Mother & Consumer Insights Researcher

“There is more to this book than just one couple’s fascinating conception journey told with genuine warmth, spirit and naked honesty. Benita’s passion and sincerity comes through to the reader; you are there with her – on the tractor, or at the kitchen bench at the farm, as she brings you along to shed light on subjects that are too often kept in the dark. 

Anyone who is struggling, or has struggled, with infertility will find solace and solidarity in this story. Anyone who is supporting someone else’s struggles will benefit enormously from better understanding the raw, complex road that they face. But this book offers more than just insight; it is an enlightening, entertaining and engaging read that dives into a world that looks similar and yet is quite distant from our own.”

Shanna Whan
Rural Personality & Founder of Sober in the Country

''There is no battle more painful, private and lonely than that of the road to conception. Especially when you are isolated either geographically or by the unspeakably cruel circumstances of being 'the only woman left on the shelf' without little people to call your own. As somebody who walked that road and never could have my own family, I cannot stress enough the devastating impact this can have on a woman's mind, body and soul. It can crush you to pieces and leave you wondering if there is anything left to hope for. It strips you to your bare bones and leaves you feeling lost, utterly. Women need to be far better equipped for the challenges of this walk and the potential mental health ramifications that still aren't discussed with enough weight.

I absolutely take my hat off to Benita for tackling this topic, front on.''

Jo, Mother
Business Owner & Photographer

“An enjoyable, informative read that shares the highs and lows one couple endured to achieve their dream of becoming parents while living in rural Australia. I couldn’t put it down!”


"I got your book today.

A truly beautiful read. So many tears.

So happy you got your boys.

Such a needed book in a space that's not talked about enough.

Don't let it be your only book.



''I received your book the other day and I absolutely love it! I usually don't read books but I had yours finished in 3 days. I just couldn't seem to take my eyes off it. It was so good to read someone else's point of view on trying as it is rarely discussed and made me feel a little at ease. Thank you so much for sharing your story. I know a lot of women (and men) will gain some knowledge and understanding of the concept of trying because of it."


“Benita, I read your book so quickly! I didn't want it to end!

Your story is so so relatable, everything you wrote, I was thinking "yep, that was me!" Thank you for having the courage and ability to share your story! It means so much.

Your book was bloody amazing."


"Your book was really insightful and honest and I enjoyed it so much I read it within record time for me, and often stayed up too late at night to find out more!

I'm going to re-gift it to a local family clinic I'll be attending for an ultrasound.

I had never read or had any experiences about IVF and/or trying - that's why I found it so fascinating! You should be so proud of your book, it's beautifully written."


''I really enjoyed your book. I felt like I was right there for the journey. I think you really captured the raw emotion that is so taboo.

I am honoured to have read your story."


“I read your book over Christmas and absolutely loved it.

I was fortunate enough not to experience fertility issues personally but still found it a moving, raw and honest book.

Thank you for sharing your family's story."


"So so enjoying your book Benita. Just started it today - very hard to put down.

I admire your courage, and you for sharing it, immensely."


''Enjoying a rainy day yesterday gave me the time to pick up your book to finally give it a read. I read it cover to cover.

You write beautifully. Congratulations on such an achievement.

Your strength through the path to having a family was so consistent. But what I am truly inspired by is your decision to share your experience and intimate personal story so generously. I haven’t had fertility challenges - in fact I’m “one of those” who was pregnant inside a month of giving up the pill. But a couple very close to me have had unsuccessful years of trying and I have felt so crippled by guilt that it was easy for me the first time.

Your book will help me to further empathise with them in a way that isn’t patronising. I just think it’s so important to have stories like yours and Adam’s in the public domain. I am so in awe of what you have done. Thank you, and congratulations!."

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