What she had to say
“Every call, I’d have aha moments the whole way through. I’d leave feeling full of energy - and be hanging out for the next one. Every single call, I’d walk away with something."
Meet Renee Lucas
The transition to motherhood wasn’t exactly a smooth one for me. To the outside world, everything seemed great. However, inside I was crumbling. I was overwhelmed and struggling with the constant demands of motherhood while also carrying a heavy load of grief from the sudden loss of my father two years earlier. I was stuck in a cycle of overreacting then beating myself up with negative self-talk. I was easily frustrated and short with my partner and kids. Everything felt like a battle.
I’d been following Benita on socials and loved her open and easy approach to motherhood. Joining a program like Illuminate was all quite new for me and stepping into a group of women I didn’t know brought up some anxiety around being judged but everyone was so welcoming. Benita has this way of making you feel really comfortable in her presence and she created such a great safe space to share and learn in, after my initial nerves, it all felt so comfortable.
Committing to the program forced me to put time aside for myself – the fortnightly calls, tools and lessons were the catalyst to realise it was ok to put myself first. On every call, I’d have aha moments the whole way through. I’d leave feeling full of energy – and be hanging out for the next one.
The biggest change for me has been how I deal with challenges that pop up in everyday life. A couple of years ago I’d meltdown and spend days dwelling in negative self-talk. Now I can let myself feel something and move on. I’ve got the tools to stop the negative spirals, to keep moving forward and learn from it.
I use what Benita taught us on a daily basis and it’s made such a huge difference in my life. My head is so much quieter now and I’m a lot calmer with my kids. We have better communication and talk more openly, without as much conflict. I absolutely recommend Benita’s work and the Illuminate program.
“Illuminate has given me the tools to stop dwelling on the negative. If I’m stressed and anxious I can talk myself out of it and keep moving forward."
Her Case Study
After the birth of her second child, Renee found herself struggling to adjust to motherhood. She’d also recently lost her beloved father, and had moved house, everything felt overwhelming to say the least.
Being a mum was wearing her down, and that was coming through in frustration and shortness with her kids. Everything felt like a battle.
Stuck in cycles of emotional outbursts followed by mum guilt and constant negative self-talk, Renee knew she needed something to change and fast.
Jumping into a group coaching program like Illuminate was new for Renee and it took some convincing to say yes to herself, but she knew it was time to prioritise herself so she took a chance and signed up.
Being in a community of women she didn’t know brought anxiety and felt very vulnerable but she was given a warm welcome and soon felt safe and comfortable to share, support and learn with the group.
Illuminate gave her time to focus on herself and the fortnightly calls, tools and lessons were the catalyst to realise that it was ok to do so.
After years of negative self-talk and big emotions, Renee can now let herself feel her feelings and move on quickly. She has the tools to stop the negative self-talk in its tracks so she can keep moving forward and learn from the challenges that come up.
“I’m calmer. I can approach things without leaping to frustration and conflict and know how to bring myself back from dwelling on the negatives.”
I use what I’ve learnt on a daily basis and it’s made such a difference. The two biggest shifts that happened for me were that my head is so much quieter now and I am much calmer with my kids. We have better communication and talk more openly, without as much conflict.